After the opening of your ceremony, hopefully all jitters have quieted down a bit. Here you are, standing in front of your family and friends, holding hands and looking into the eyes of the love of your life.
It is at this time that I speak to you (and your guests) about marriage – and offer a little advice. This section is called the Address and Charge to the Couple.
Traditionally, this section discusses what marriage is – in the eyes of the church, or other authority in your tradition – and offers advice to the couple based on these ideas. However, I approach this differently in most cases.
When I marry couples, I become somewhat of a mouthpiece for you. I do NOT bring my own ideas of marriage or those of my personal spiritual background; instead, I learn what marriage means to YOU. I find the words that speak to you and your future spouse of a marriage that you are seeking – the beliefs you have of what makes a successful marriage, what your dreams are, and what your own challenges are.
As a culture, we often have many of the same ideas about love and marriage, therefore I have collected a number of beautiful sentiments, readings, and notions of marriage that may match your own. Once we’ve met, I will suggest a few, and to these, I will make subtle changes and edits to make it fit you perfectly. And if none fit at all, we work together until I find the perfect way to express what marriage means to you. I do the same with the section Charge to the Couple. Here, I offer a bit of advice that will have meaning to you as a couple – touching upon the things that will help you to remember when you come upon personal challenges.
Also in this section – if you choose to have one in your ceremony – is your Love Story. There is a lot to discuss about this – how I get to know you enough to write your love story, what flavor will it be, how long it is, how personal I get, etc. Let’s talk about this next time.
Thanks for reading! Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.